For the Love of Pete: Marriage, Meatballs, & Big Macs ™

I love my husband, Pete, every day, and most days I like him too. There’s nothing he won’t do to help me, except when he’s watching sports and news shows or stepping into his alter ego as the captain of his fantasy sports team, whatever season or league that might be. Those activities account for far more hours in his day than what might seem normal or reasonable to any wife. That may be the reason my second favorite saying around the house is, “So help me Pete.” It’s usually not in the form of a request for assistance but a well-animated declaration of amused exasperation at the realization I won’t be getting any assistance at all. As a result of all of these taxing daily activities, this hard-working, good-natured creature needs his sleep too. He usually fits in a snore-induced nap until he’s called for dinner. I can see Pete and our little Havanese puppy, Beemer, stretched out together on the couch from my vantage point in the kitchen. Beemer sleeps upside down, a sign I am told that indicates he is completely content and at ease. Actually, I use this to my advantage. If Pete was lurking in the kitchen while I was prepping a meal or cooking, or even making a sandwich, he would ask me questions like, “Why are you putting that stuff in the tuna salad?” He doesn’t know it’s Italian parsley or dill, which I add to the diced celery and onion and fresh lemon juice as well as a couple of dollops of mayonnaise when mixing up the tuna salad. I’ve been making the tuna salad, the only fish that Pete will eat, using this recipe for more than 10 years. It’s a recipe that I created through some experimentation and it always gets me a, “Great tuna, Wolf,” from Pete. “Wolf” is a term of endearment that Pete uses when he’s happy, which is most of the time. It emanates from a high-energy radio job he acquired before we met when he was known as the “Night Wolf.” I actually listened to his show before I met him and thought he was crazy. When I did finally meet him, (we were both volunteering to help raise money for the Johns Hopkins Children’s Center) it was a sweltering day in Baltimore and Pete showed up in shorts, his socks pulled up straight, and a wallet stuffed in one of the socks. I’m sure my expression spoke volumes. I remember thinking; “I guess I can cross him off the potential husband material list because this guy definitely is crazy!” A few weeks after our initial meeting we met up again and he made me laugh, but not because his wallet was stuffed in his socks. He’s actually a pretty funny guy and his humor has helped to get us through some of the toughest moments in our lives. So I invited Pete to a cookout with a few other friends and he turned me down. He told me he had to head home for the weekend to suburban Philadelphia to visit his family (a place I would later discover had the coolest shopping mall in the country; even better than Mall of America) so his mother could do his laundry. “Wow, I thought, strike two, what a goofball.” Little did I know that this lovable goofball would be my husband and inspire me to become a wonderful cook after years as a spectacular failure at my culinary pursuits (a hard pill to swallow coming from a long line of spectacular Italian cooks on my Mother’s side – even my Dad was a wonderful cook!). I would also discover that the reason his Mom did his wash was because after working a full week he travelled from Baltimore to suburban Philadelphia to volunteer as an ambulance driver in his hometown. This “goofball” morphed into a “good egg” with a big heart and an even bigger sense of humor. The expression “For the Love of Pete,” has had many meanings over the years and has filled my eyes with laughter and tears as we embarked on a journey that always brought us back to the kitchen table with the people we love most.